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In territory reserved for demographics, The Therapist finds its appeal in the rarefied field of psychographics where America’s unconscious is exhumed for our collective consumption.  Therapy like other forms, more art than science, is instinctively intimate, often provocative, and painfully personal.

Podcast Therapy has become a new media option commanding a sacred loyalty among its thousands of listening constituents. The individual Smart Phone has become for Americans a kind of portable shaman, magically summoning voices out of the ambient void; voices offering amusement, suspense, information and succor.

Soaring through the ether, somehow making sense of these chaotic times is the supremely confident voice of The Therapist, who has a special appetite for situations in which arguments are advanced, colorfully, and then abruptly toppled by a statement of timely truth.

Tuning into The Therapist promises you will not go to bed tonight with the same perspective that woke you up this morning. 

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Becoming Ourselves

Life is a wandering, digressing sort of journey that loops, spins, backtracks, and often contradicts itself.  The fragile gift of becoming is a rare and difficult art requiring breathing room permitting ourselves to look back at every stage to what we no longer are, shed of the impatient and preconceived notion, a tightness to conformity, or adherence to societal convention.  Labels restrict and limit our potential in our early and vulnerable journey of discovering who we are and want to be.

Becoming ourselves, we serve for many years in humble apprenticeship following its difficult way and discovering its different forms of humility and abasement to life’s fierce introduction to all the potential ways of being us.  Labels and prejudice attempt to control what we instinctively know cannot be controlled, the wandering, beautiful, terrifying mystery of becoming ourselves.

Prejudice, that attitude in search of evidence, wishes to control that which does not want to be held within the bounds of to narrow a restriction.  Labels and prejudice have already determined who we are before we learned to argue our liberating message to imposed restriction.  We must resist one of our darker angels, the human tendency to settle too soon into a label of restricting uncertainty, least we sacrifice our potentials deepest reward, becoming who we may in time wish rather to be.

Podcast Notes

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I allow my son, age four, to express his feelings of sadness and anger regarding my husband’s and my separation. But his expression isn’t going to change things and I have the feeling this will leave him feeling “powerless.” – Diane, Age 31

Your question suggests that your son will feel powerless if after having expressed himself, he doesn’t get his way. If that were a truism, then you must always fulfill the needs of the articulate. I suspect that underneath this story, the story-teller feels uncertain about her own power base, causing you to project your feelings …

Continue reading “I allow my son, age four, to express his feelings of sadness and anger regarding my husband’s and my separation. But his expression isn’t going to change things and I have the feeling this will leave him feeling “powerless.” – Diane, Age 31”

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How do I deal differently with a father who is critical of so many things I do, say, etc. He yells a lot and tries constantly to control all aspects of my life. – Debbie, Age 18

You must learn two lessons if you are to associate with people given to criticism. First, you must learn to be an “emotional matador.” You must not become a target. You become a target by expecting or hoping that your father (the bull) will satisfy your need. Listen to the audio “How to be an …

Continue reading “How do I deal differently with a father who is critical of so many things I do, say, etc. He yells a lot and tries constantly to control all aspects of my life. – Debbie, Age 18”

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